The Freedom of Forgiveness {Brave Women #12}

Brave Women ManifestoWe’re passionate about becoming Brave Women who seek to inspire and equip other women, of every generation, to live out their God-given calling to be brave, bold, bright, and beautiful as they embrace a God-transformed life in pursuit of becoming more like Jesus for the sake of impacting the next generation.

This mission is expressed more fully in the Brave Women Manifesto, which is a list of 52-truth principles that we’re committed to living out one day at a time. To make this mission of brave and bold faith take on deep roots and practical application, we’re setting apart each Monday as a time to focus on one point from the Manifesto.

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Brave Women Manifesto #12 - I will seek forgiveness


Brave Women Manifesto #12

I will be the first to say I’m sorry, seek forgiveness,
and offer forgiveness even when it’s hard.

Psalm 38:18  (NLT)

But I confess my sins;
    I am deeply sorry for what I have done.

James 5:16 (NLT)

 Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.
The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.

Luke 17:4 (NLT)

Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.


Speak to God

Lord God, I want to be quick to confess my sins to you. Please cultivate in me a heart that never hardens, so that I may always be deeply sorry for what I have done wrong in your eyes. Lord, crush my pride so that I am willing to confess my sins to you and also those I can trust with my heart.

Thank you that the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. Yes, Lord, I hope to see those results in my own life!

Lord, it’s not easy to walk in forgiveness with those who have sinned against me. But you request that offering forgiveness, even seven times a day, to the one who has offended me is a must. Oh Lord, really? It’s so hard. Please enable me to be a person who forgives quickly and often.

In the Strong Name of Jesus, Amen.


Make it Personal

My youngest daughter had just finished helping my middle daughter study for her Chemistry test by quizzing her on her flash cards. When all was said and done, she said, “Chemistry is so hard. I don’t think it will make sense to me even when I’m in your class daddy.” Yes, my kiddos have the blessing of living with their Chemistry teacher. My husband’s response to my daughter took me by surprise.

“It’s only hard because you can’t see it.”

She pressed him, “What do you mean you can’t see it?”

“Well,” he said, “You can’t see the why . . . the process of getting to the answer is abstract.”

How true, not only about Chemistry, but also about forgiveness.

In the case of forgiveness, we may never see the outcome clearly. All the preceding steps may be also obscure, however the fruit is always visible. There’s a hurt inflicted, a careless grazing of pain against the heart, or maybe an outright sin. Regardless of the offense, a wound is caused and it takes on a power all it’s own, as it becomes infected and attempts to destroy the life of it’s victim.

Avoiding forgiveness leaves the most obvious marks on a person’s life.

Haven you noticed the way unforgiveness manifests in bitterness and resentment, anger and a critical spirit? Have you seen the way unforgiveness causes isolation and despair, depression and anxiety? Or the way it becomes the source of feeling defeated and defensive?

Unforgiveness makes a mess of our lives, whether it’s the guilt we carry over our own offenses or the wound caused by another that we fail to have Him treat. 

Like a chemist, we need to be aware of elements involved. Yes, we need to own our stuff . . . our hurt as well as our sin, as we talked about in principle #11.  The first step always has to be in naming the pain before God, and then seeking His truth for dealing with our hurt. The second step is simple obedience. God says to seek forgiveness from Him when we’ve sinned. Could it be any plainer? And the third step is choosing to forgive those who have sinned against us, regardless of their willingness to receive it.

Could our own response be better than that? NO! And I speak as one with experience. Oh yes, I know this dance of forgiveness well, as I’ve walked this road, my friend.

In moving through the process of forgiveness with the Lord, we get to live set free from guilt and shame, released from pain and hurt.

Forgiveness like a feather floating towards the ground, gracefully landing wherever the wind carries it to. It’s unhindered. Burdened-less. Untethered. And simply free.

Is it time for you to be  set free today, simply by obeying God in this journey of forgiveness?

If walking through this process of forgiveness feels daunting, you might just need to step back and start at the beginning by unpacking your story, pinpointing the hurt, and moving forward with the Lord. The Infuse Course will actually help you do that one step at a time and at your own pace.


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Founder & Director at More to Be
Elisa is a trained biblical life coach, mentor, and speaker passionate about equipping women to experience authentic life change for the sake impacting the next generation. She is the founder of More to Be and author of Meet the New You: A 21-day Plan for Embracing Fresh Attitudes and Focused Habits for Real Life Change. Elisa is also a life coach and coach instructor dedicated to helping women discover how God has equipped them for today. She considers her first calling as wife to Stephen and mother to her tween and teenage children. Learn more about Elisa's and her coaching as well as leadership development company at

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