Second, change is hard because it takes work and time.
Third, changing our behavior, permanently, often requires more than just will power; it requires a change in our thinking and the state of our heart.
So, if you really want to change, I suggest you do the following:
- Evaluate the behaviors you want to change. Be honest by comparing them to Scripture.
- Pray and ask God to show you why you act the way you do and why or when those beliefs began.
- Take your beliefs and look to the Scriptures to find out God’s truth. For example, we may feel afraid or believe that we were abandoned by God, but His Word says in Deuteronomy 31:6, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” The Word has an answer for every single question we have about life! We simply need to find the answer that pertains to our situation or struggle. You can use Biblegateway.com to search the Scriptures using a keyword, such as “respect,” and then study the passages that contain those verses. Some will make sense and others won’t, so be sure to seek the help of a Christian who knows their Bible.
- Begin the process of memorizing Scripture, especially verses that are related to your false beliefs about God or circumstances in your life. Use these verses as a way of doing battle with your old behavior as you learn to live in a new way according to the truth.
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
Remember, change comes over time. Let the grace of God offered by the blood of Christ be sufficient in your times of struggle until you find complete victory through the power of God.