Transformed Tuesday: How to Stop Dressing Like a Chameleon

Galatians 1:10 ESV

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God?
Or am I trying to please man?
If I were still trying to please man,
I would not be a servant of Christ.

I have a friend who always looks perfect. Her hair. Her makeup. Her clothes. Even if she’s in workout clothes, she just seems to look so put together—like she just stepped out of an exercise clothes catalog.

That is not me.

When I’m in workout clothes, I pretty much look like I’ve been in a wrestling ring with a 3-time world champion. It’s ugly; my hair looks like it just experienced a tornado, my husband’s way-too-big t-shirt drowns my figure, and shoes with holes in them display my mismatched socks inside. My fashion sense in workout clothes also spills over into my everyday clothes.

Over the years, I’ve tried to fall into how society told me I should dress.

Who am I trying to please?

I sought out only the name brands and wore the right accessories and colors for each season. In the shower each morning, I planned outfits that resembled the girls whose fashion sense I admired, and I would walk out the door feeling uncomfortable, like I was trying to fit into someone else’s clothes, someone else’s skin. I tried to conform to what my friends were wearing, thinking I would feel better in the latest fashion, but that left me feeling like a clone.

When fashion stealing didn’t work, I tried to convince myself that it didn’t matter, that fashion wasn’t what He cared about {which is true!}. I tried to convince myself that the world’s judgment of my fashion shouldn’t matter {which is also true!}, but deep down I still let it get to me. I was still bothered by the desire to want to feel good in my clothes, look my best, and walk confidently. Somehow I couldn’t find a peaceful place in this area of my life.

My chameleon lifestyle, switching back and forth between other people’s style and what I believed to be mine, went on for years.

I couldn’t find rest in my own clothes, let alone in my own skin. I changed with the wind.

And then He worked. He brought me to a deeper place of understanding my Chameleon ways.

My fashion sense was a direct reflection of what was going on inside. I was hopping back and forth between what the world wanted from me and what I wanted.

I was hopping back and forth between the world’s approval of me and God’s approval of me. I was wishy-washy, not fully secure in my identity as God’s child, beautifully and wonderfully made.

When we remain in a place of not fully walking in our identity as daughters of the One True King, we flop back and forth between what the world encourages us to do and living in the skin we were made to live in.

I was trying to fit into someone else’s skin, rather than resting in who He made me to be.

As I spent more time with my King, He began to show me who I was, and naturally out of that flowed my style.

I wasn’t so insecure, and I didn’t want to dress like everyone else. I found what worked for my body type, and what made me feel confident as I walked out the door.

I finally found my style, and it was all because I took my eyes off of the world and myself, and focused on Him instead.

Do you struggle to feel confident in your clothes?

I want to encourage you to seek Him first. Learn to walk in your identity as His daughter, and from there He will give you a peace about truly walking confidently in your very own style, one that is just perfectly suited for you.

 If you struggle with finding your beauty in the skin you’re in, download our Redefining Beauty resources for encouragement.

4 thoughts on “Transformed Tuesday: How to Stop Dressing Like a Chameleon”

  1. I found your blog on Pinterest. Ironically, I had posted something last Tuesday on being convicted of a chameleon life when I give the illusion to other women that I have it all together when I definitely do not.

    I appreciate your ministry to women and want to encourage you to keep it up.

    I’m glad to have found your spot here. I’ll be back!

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