You Are Wonderful…Even Without A Boy By Your Side

I’m twenty years old, an almost-straight-A student, and involved in many different things both in high school and college. And I’m in a sorority.

I’m the oldest of four and the only girl.

I like to think I’m decently funny and that my love for Jesus shows through. But…

I’ve never been on a date.

I’ve climbed ladders and gained leadership positions. I’ve grown close to some of the most amazing women this world has to offer, and I intern for a place I love with all my heart. After many months, I found a church family. Most days I’m so busy with homework and maintaining (growing) relationships that I don’t stop to think about it…

Until I see my friends getting dressed up for a first date or celebrating their one-year anniversary.

I’m only twenty years old, but my friends are getting engaged and planning weddings, and it seems like every other day I receive a new wedding invitation.

Dance for the One Who Made the Music

In all of it, the busy and the boyfriend-less, where do I fit in?

If we’re going to be completely honest, can I quietly admit that sometimes I wonder if something is wrong with me?

Do you feel it, too? Do you notice the couples holding hands and walking down the sidewalk, around the mall, in the school hallways?

Do you wonder when it’s going to be your time?

Me, too, friend, me, too.

Last year I felt like the only one in my friend group that wasn’t in a serious relationship. Instead of simply praying for the right guy friendships to enter my life, my mind would automatically view a new friend as a potential date.


So I did something drastic.

I called it quits.

In the middle of a generation looking for a good time before settling down, I said no more.

Amidst many of my closest friends being in serious relationships, I sat down and stopped looking, stopped waiting. Instead, I spent six months looking to the only One, waiting on Him.

It wasn’t easy…but it wasn’t hard, either.

Day after day new friendships sprang up. Boys texted and invited me out (oh, His humor and timing are just too, too good) and I clung to Him all the more. I learned new things about others but mainly I learned about the most important man in my life.

Whatever I was wanting in a guy I already had in Him. Because He is wonderful.

Everything I wonder about the future is already secure with Him by my side.

Without a boy by your side, it’s easy to feel less than, insecure, and like you’re simply in a waiting period.

You. Are. Not.

You are good without a man.

You are wonderful, beautiful, and lovely, a priceless treasure of the King of Kings. {click to tweet}

Sweet girls, won’t you join me in pursuing the One who made you instead of the cute boy that sits next to you in class?

In His perfect timing, a man will step in and ask to dance this thing called life with you. But in the mean time, let’s dance for the One who wrote the music.

It won’t be easy, I know. There are times I don’t want to spend yet another Friday night in my dorm room with a chic flick and popcorn, moments I want someone to grab my hand and walk with me to class.

But at the end of the day, I am content with only Him, and I can trust that the right man will enter the dance at just the right moment. Until then, I’ll stop daydreaming about the what-could-be’s and focus on what He provides in the right-now.

Proverbs 3:5-6 The Message

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all.”


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