She said that one day she went to her parents’ house and started to tell her mom about this young man she had met. She went on and on about how he was such a godly man, a strong Christian, and everything she had ever dreamed of in a husband. Her mom listened attentively to her daughter. Then the young woman said, “But he doesn’t even know I exist.” She was discouraged and felt hopeless. At that point her mom gently replied to her daughter…
“Honey, a man like that’s not going to be attracted to the woman you are at the moment.”
The words of her mother hurt, but she knew it was true.
When you’re young, just starting out in this whole world of boys and dating and relationships, you may not think much about your future husband. Sure, you know you want to get married, and maybe you start dreaming of that magical day and the colors and flowers and your white dress. But more than likely, you don’t think much about the kind of husband you hope for.
When you get a little older and become a woman in your early twenties, an image of your future husband begins to solidify in your mind. You start to imagine what he’ll look like, what kind of job he’ll have, and what his hobbies will be. You even begin a mental list of “must haves.”
What we forget, though, when we’re dreaming big dreams is that finding a good husband starts with ourselves.
Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.
What kind of husband are you sowing?
Let’s get one thing straight:
Sowing in relationships isn’t about trying to sculpt a person to be who you want him to be.
Sowing in relationships is about becoming the person you want to attract.
Every decision you make reveals your character and your relationship to God.
Sow for yourselves righteousness; reap steadfast love; break up your fallow ground, for it is the time to seek the Lord, that he may come and rain righteousness upon you.”
Decisions about dating, purity, friendships, money, education, careers – you name it – they all reveal your righteousness. Sowing is about seeking righteousness that will lead you to reap love.
Have you ever looked around in your dating life and asked yourself, “Where are all the good guys?”
Whenever you ask yourself that question, first look within yourself and ask, “Am I sowing righteousness that will attract the guy I hope to meet?” Maybe you are sowing righteousness, and God is asking you to be patient as He works His purposes in your life.
But after you examine yourself, if you find that you’re not sowing righteousness, start there.
Begin by intentionally growing your relationship to Jesus so that through Him you will be everything you hope to have in a future husband.