The Secret to Connecting with God

Have you ever considered how the connection you crave with God may be deeply impacted by the connections you have with others?

Maybe you’ve thought what you have with God doesn’t have to do with anyone else. It’s just you and God – but then again, maybe not.

The Secret to Connecting with God

We are created in the image of our relational God. He invites us to experience a fully connected relationship with Him when we’re adopted into His family by faith in Jesus Christ as Lord. We are given the gift of His presence through the indwelling Holy Spirit.

God designed us for continual connection with not only Himself but also His body.

John wrote, “This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.” (1 John 4:10-12 NLT).

Understanding of God’s love for us, as well as our ability to love Him in return, is directly impacted by our experience of love shared one to another. When God’s love has been marred and broken by sin in our relationships, we can’t help but question His love for us. No wonder we isolate and withdraw not only from God but also from our families and friends and communities and churches.

Satan is about the business of isolating us and separating us from God and each other.

We need relationships to help us gain a deeper understanding of God and for His healing love to permeate our lives. That’s because God designed our brains to heal from trauma as well as grow in cognitive ability through relationships. The limbic system is our emotional hub and functions best in patterned, rhythmic, and predictable relationships – like that of a healthy relationship between mother and child. Neuro-pathways are formed and develop in that kind of relationship and create an organized brain. Think of it this way – a brain that experiences relational love with another human being is capable of understanding the love of God not only experientially but also intellectually.

We need relationships to help us gain a deeper understanding  of God and for His healing love to permeate our lives.

So where does that leave us? It would be easy to play the blame-game, resigning ourselves to a loveless life and disconnection from God since we can’t control anyone else’s behavior. But is that really God’s best?

What if we chose to pursue God’s real love and become His real love to others?

Yes, that means taking the risk and possibly getting hurt, being rejected, and experiencing disappointment. We don’t have to be reckless, ignoring boundaries and forsaking discernment. But we can take a step of faith. We can pursue healthy relationships that lead to healing and wholeness not only for ourselves but also to be a powerful expression of God’s love in this world.

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