Ephesians 22-24
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
I was sorry that I hadn’t had much teaching in this area, either while I was growing up, or before I was married. Honestly, it took me the first 10 years of my marriage to figure out how this works practically – in a day to day relationship. I do not believe that it is a weak position to want to be the submissive one. There is TREMENDOUS FREEDOM is having the husband be at the head of the house. If you can give up the control part! AND, his responsibility is also very great in this partnership. Ephesians gives us what his role is:
Ephesians 5:25-33
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31″For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
The man is told to love his wife as Christ loved the church! This is difficult thing to do when you live each day – with all of the issues that we bring into our marriages. I have rejoiced in learning how to TRUST my husband with the important decisions for our family. I have been on my knees in prayer for him. I have also freely shared my opinions and thoughts with him on what is best. Just because I am #2 (if you want to think of it that way), doesn’t mean my thoughts don’t matter, and that I am not an equal partner in our relationship. He welcomes my thoughts and listens carefully. I know that he considers what I say.
But I can also honestly say that when I obey God’s Word, and RESPECT my husband (verse 33), there is peace in my home, and great love in my life. My husband is a Godly man who is trying his best to follow God’s Word for our family. I pray that you all will also marry Godly men who desire a strong relationship with the Lord.
